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What is “The Game” and why are the masses eagerly participating in this round-about way of having a relationship with members of the opposite sex? Are relationships taking a turn for the worse? Are today’s generation of Millenials, or more commonly referred to as the Y Generation, (children born between 1980-2000) causing themselves a great disservice by participating in “The Game?”
All too often, in todays society, we are bombarded by dating advice. Everywhere we look we are reminded of how we should behave in order to attract the obverse gender. Our culture thrives monetarily on the dating scene. We have TV shows, magazines, billboards, hotlines, apps on our phones, and even websites specifically designed to pair people together. Thus creating a business based on other people’s relationships. As a culture, we give billions of dollars every year to companies that tell us how we need talk, what we need to wear, the food we need to eat, and essentially, who we need to become in order for us to be successful in our relationships. We have completely changed the dating scene by buying into the rules set by big businesses. Is it possible that by listening to the “advice” dished out by money hungry corporations, we have forgotten what it means to be ourselves? By playing into “The Game,” have we created a society wrought with superficial people, and in turn, hollow relationships? By following the current have we created a ripple effect that will only become more difficult to break free from?
In today’s day and age we are constantly reminded of the material world. Everywhere we travel we are reminded of the items that corporations deem essential. We purchase these manufactured articles in order to impress other people. But why should the amount of money we spend on meaningless products be at the forefront of our relationships? How has it come to be, that the things we posses are more important than our personalities? We need to embrace who we are, not what we are. The clothes we wear, the cars we drive, and the houses we live in do not express who we are as individuales. We cannot know a person by having a conversation with their car or by looking at their house. We develop relationships by having honest conversations. It is in listening to others aspirations and watching their actions that we begin to understand who a person really is on the inside. When we take away these material obstructions we begin to see clearly.
Material items aren’t the only facet of this play book. There are an incredible number of so called “rules” that make up a substantial portion of “The Game.” We have rules that dictate how long we must wait to call a person, rules that say we must play hard to get, rules that tell females they must always let the guy win, and even rules that determine an appropriate number of dates before we can have sex. Who created these rules? And why are we following them? It’s okay to break this misconception of how relationships should go. It’s okay to take a different path.
If you like someone, tell them. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them. Life is too short to be spent worrying about what others think. Be yourself; your true self. If you’re good at something, give it your all. Why would we want to be anything less than what we’re capable of? Be the person who exists when all the material items are stripped away. Be the person who follows their heart, instead of rules set by people that are too afraid to listen to their feelings. Step off the path traveled by many searching souls. Take control of your life.
Isn’t the whole point of a relationship so we get to know one another on a more personal level? At the very core of it, don’t we all want friendship? Don’t we all yearn for someone who we can be our true selves around? That special person who understands us, and wants the best for us? Why would we begin our quest with buying into media hype of what’s “proper?” Why has the dating scene become a game that only produces inaccurate readouts? For healthy relationships to survive we need to change “The Game.” We need to go against the grain… we need a new direction.
I encourage you to develop a relationship based on truth. I urge you to break away from meaningless rules. I invite you to set a new standard. Go against the current. This is your life, don’t let others tell you how to live it. I challenge you to follow your heart and be your own person. It’s worth it.
Coming April 2014 I will begin my second thru-hike. In 2012 I thru-hiked the Pacific Crest Trail, and in April I will start off on the 3,100 mile Continental Divide Trail. I’m determined to not let my health issues (Traumatic Brain Injury and Melanoma) dictate how I live my life. I’m intent on showing others that no matter what “deficit” you’re living with, you can still achieve monumental accomplishments! I want to inspire others through my undertakings that you can do anything you set your mind to!
There have been lots of people who want to help out with my undertaking. So I’ve created a page that you can donate to via my backpacking blog. The money will go towards my gear and food. Any donation, no matter how small or big is greatly appreciated! You’ll even receive a postcard while I’m on trail if you email me your address: email@example.com Follow the link to donate!
For those of you unfamiliar with long-distance hiking here’s some info.
The Continental Divide Trail is known in the thru-hiking community as the “King of Trails”. It is considered to be the hardest of the three long distance trails in the United States that make up the Triple Crown of Hiking. To be a triple crown hiker you must hike the entire distance of the Appalachian Trail(AT), Pacific Crest Trail(PCT – which I’ve already done) and The Continental Divide(CDT). There are many differences between all three trails, but a general way to compare them is to say they all scale with difficulty and length(AT–>PCT–>CDT). It’s also hard for me to comment here because I have only thru-hiked the PCT. A good analogy I’ve heard before would be to compare them to education.
|Appalachian Trail (Bachelor’s)||2100 miles|
|Pacific Crest Trail (Master’s)||2665 miles|
|Continental Divide Trail (Doctorate’s)||2800-3100 miles|
The CDT is by far the hardest of the three for many different reasons. The trail is only about 70% complete, so this means you will be road walking in many places on jeep/paved roads. This also means you will be bushwhacking or hiking cross country in many areas because there is no trail. Unlike the AT and the PCT, I won’t necessarily follow along mindlessly on a path, but rather follow a route which I’ll travel near/along. You can in a sense, create your own path. It requires thought and resourcefulness to get where I’ll need to be.
The trail goes through New Mexico, Colorado, Wyoming, Idaho and Montana. I will be backpacking through the Rockies, Yellowstone, Glacier National Park, Gila Cliff Dwellings, the San Juan’s and many other spots I’m thrilled to be calling my home for the summer.
The number of people that attempt to thru-hike this each year is very minimal compared to the PCT. I think something like a dozen people finish the whole trail every season but this is also hard to say. Every season is vastly different and there seems to be more people hiking every year. Another issue is that this trail is not maintained like the AT or PCT. Cross-country travel and checking my maps and GPS will be vital in this thru-hike.
In short, this trail has more extreme conditions, but also a huge pay off. I’ll get to hike in places that have been untouched by civilization. I’ll get to navigate along one of the largest nature features on the planet(if not THE largest). I can hardly wait to be out covering 20-30+ miles every day in some of the most scenic backcountry our nation has to offer.
(Thanks to my buddy “Not So Bad” for CDT info)