“The Game”

What is “The Game” and why are the masses eagerly participating in this round-about way of having a relationship with members of the opposite sex?  Are relationships taking a turn for the worse? Are today’s generation of Millenials, or more commonly referred to as the Y Generation, (children born between 1980-2000) causing themselves a great disservice by participating in “The Game?”

All too often, in todays society, we are bombarded by dating advice. Everywhere we look we are reminded of how we should behave in order to attract the obverse gender. Our culture thrives monetarily on the dating scene. We have TV shows, magazines, billboards, hotlines, apps on our phones, and even websites specifically designed to pair people together. Thus creating a business based on other people’s relationships. As a culture, we give billions of dollars every year to companies that tell us how we need talk, what we need to wear, the food we need to eat, and essentially, who we need to become in order for us to be successful in our relationships. We have completely changed the dating scene by buying into the rules set by big businesses. Is it possible that by listening to the “advice” dished out by money hungry corporations, we have forgotten what it means to be ourselves?  By playing into “The Game,” have we created a society wrought with superficial people, and in turn, hollow relationships? By following the current have we created a ripple effect that will only become more difficult to break free from?


In today’s day and age we are constantly reminded of the material world. Everywhere we travel we are reminded of the items that corporations deem essential. We purchase these manufactured articles in order to impress other people. But why should the amount of money we spend on meaningless products be at the forefront of our relationships? How has it come to be, that the things we posses are more important than our personalities? We need to embrace who we are, not what we are. The clothes we wear, the cars we drive, and the houses we live in do not express who we are as individuales. We cannot know a person by having a conversation with their car or by looking at their house. We develop relationships by having honest conversations. It is in listening to others aspirations and watching their actions that we begin to understand who a person really is on the inside. When we take away these material obstructions we begin to see clearly.


Material items aren’t the only facet of this play book. There are an incredible number of so called “rules” that make up a substantial portion of “The Game.” We have rules that dictate how long we must wait to call a person, rules that say we must play hard to get, rules that tell females they must always let the guy win, and even rules that determine an appropriate number of dates before we can have sex. Who created these rules? And why are we following them? It’s okay to break this misconception of how relationships should go. It’s okay to take a different path.


If you like someone, tell them. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them. Life is too short to be spent worrying about what others think. Be yourself; your true self. If you’re good at something, give it your all. Why would we want to be anything less than what we’re capable of? Be the person who exists when all the material items are stripped away. Be the person who follows their heart, instead of rules set by people that are too afraid to listen to their feelings. Step off the path traveled by many searching souls. Take control of your life.


 Isn’t the whole point of a relationship so we get to know one another on a more personal level? At the very core of it, don’t we all want friendship? Don’t we all yearn for someone who we can be our true selves around? That special person who understands us, and wants the best for us? Why would we begin our quest with buying into media hype of what’s “proper?” Why has the dating scene become a game that only produces inaccurate readouts? For healthy relationships to survive we need to change “The Game.” We need to go against the grain… we need a new direction.


I encourage you to develop a relationship based on truth. I urge you to break away from meaningless rules. I invite you to set a new standard. Go against the current. This is your life, don’t let others tell you how to live it. I challenge you to follow your heart and be your own person. It’s worth it.


11 thoughts on ““The Game”

  1. You have interesting ideas and insights (and awesome photos too!).

    This is my favorite part in what you wrote: “If you like someone, tell them. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them. Life is too short to be spent worrying about what others think. Be yourself; your true self.”

    You’re right. We’re not supposed to live by just following the rules, especially when it’s hindering from living life to the full.

  2. Excellent! Very insightful. I guess the bottom line is nobody wants to be hurt, and there is a definite psychology in human relationships, especially between men and women. It’s like you do need to know how to play The Game. But if everybody stops playing and just be real and honest, games would stop.

  3. I never got it. I don’t think my partner did either. We met in the real world – walking the Overland Track in Tasmania. A 6 day walk through wilderness, where you don’t get phone coverage. The guides carry satellite phones to call a helicopter should someone get hurt and be unable to walk out.
    There’s no way that we would have met in our daily lives – and not just because we lived in different cities. The small group interacted each evening and we got to know one another without any pressure to be anything more or less than who we were. There’s no point to makeup or fancy clothes out there.
    I feel sorry for people who feel they have to play ‘The Game’ to try to find someone because they’re worried about being the only one unpartnered when all their friends are not just in relationships but engaged, getting married, having children… My advice to my friends is always to take a holiday somewhere (Tassie’s nice!) and just be yourself! It worked for me.

  4. I am fresh back in the dating “game.” Have been out for 18 years…and it is so scary. I have absolutely been bombarded with mostly … “don’t do this, or that..” My response has always been…”but that’s me” or “that’s how I feel…why should I act different?” So Yes!!! I love your post and think it rings so very true!

  5. I am LONG out of the dating game. BUT, when meeting new people they get me. A bit loud, liking to make people laugh, repectful yet a bit irreverent (if that makes sense) and very little fear. Some love me, many put up with me, and some can’t stand me, but I am me!

    Well done lady, and I love the pics to support your ideas. If I wasn’t already, this post woulda made me follow you all over again!


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